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Hot Pink Orgasms with the Sohimi Heated Vibrator

Author’s note: There are no affiliate links in this article. Just an honest review.

If you decide you’d like to try the Heated Sohimi Vibe, you can get 30% off if you use the code B3ZKP7IC.

My libido has been in a crazy low slump for a while now. We’re talking months of basically nothing going on down there.

Recently, I took a belated honeymoon trip with my hubby, and there was a bit of action there in the hot tub (story coming soon). But other than that, my sex drive has been cold.

Having sex only one time in more than two months isn’t our usual. We’ve definitely hit a wall, and lately, I’m feeling more like my hubby is my very chill roommate. A guy I love to talk to and spend time with, but not one I’m into fucking.

This is a real issue — not just for us, but for so many couples out there.

The sexual spark has taken its own vacation — from our marriage. So this past weekend, I made a point to take some time to myself to try out a new sexy toy.

Research says that one of the many benefits of masturbation may include increasing your libido. I’ve found it to be true for myself. So sometimes, when I feel low like this, I just gotta get in there and do the work. And boy, did I do the work.

I had a lovely time with this sleek, strong heating vibrator by Sohimi — and I would HIGHLY recommend it. Here’s why.

The Sohimi Heated Vibrator — All the Pros and Cons

Love the Look and Feel

Just playing with this thing in my hands feels good. Granted, if the soft, supple silicone feels so nice in my hands, you can imagine how good it feels in other places — including my breasts, labia, clit, etc. (I made sure all of these places got some much-needed attention during this trial run.)

And I love the bright pink color. I love when my sex toys look cute, and I’m actually a bit turned off by vibrators and dildos that are designed to look like big, super-realistic cocks. To each their own, of course. But while I love the look of a real-life cock, for my toys, the cute and stylish aesthetic is my preference.

Heating Function is HOT

This is my first time ever trying a vibrator that heats up. And I absolutely LOVE it.

It just makes for a more cozy and pleasurable experience overall. Just feeling it warm up in my hands is incredibly relaxing. And it reaches the perfect temperature to match your body heat, so don’t worry about it being too warm against your delicate parts. This Sohimi vibe will set your loins on fire, yes, but only in the most pleasurable and metaphorical way.

Good Vibrations

This vibe has 9 different powerful vibration settings. And the advanced motor is strong yet quiet. I don’t typically mess with the intricate pulsing patterns, but there are 6 of those. I usually just enjoy the strongest setting, with full-blast vibes directly against my clit. And this toy doesn’t disappoint there.

You can get a feel for the vibration levels in my Instagram video.

Bendy is Better

I’ve yet to come across a vibrator that has this much flexibility. I’m sure there are other brands out there with this design, but this was my first encounter.

You can bend it any which way you want. And as I was using it, that’s what I did. I had fun enjoying the tip of the vibrator inside my vagina and bending the handle upward until it was flush against my clit.

This meant that the angle of the vibrator inside me went from pressing upward (toward the g-spot) to pressing downward (toward the anus). The change in sensations feels unique. You can just imagine all the different fun you can have with anal or vaginal play.

The Price is Right

The other great thing that surprised me is the price point. This vibrator is simple, yet functional in every way it can be. It feels incredibly luxurious, and it’s only $25.99 on Amazon. (Plus, you’ll get 30% off if you use the code B3ZKP7IC when you buy!)

Note that this article does not contain affiliate links, so I won’t make any commission from this toy. This is just my honest review in exchange for the product — and what a fun review process it was!

All the Functionality

I love that this toy is fully waterproof. I use toys in the bathtub a lot, but I usually have to be careful and make sure whatever I’m using isn’t fully immersed. I end up having to keep the water level low or lifting my ass in the air above water (which can be a fun sensation in itself, but I digress). I also end up eventually ruining vibrators in the shower as they collect water little by little.

You don’t have to worry about that with this toy. Plus, it’s USB rechargeable, which is usually the only way I want to go nowadays, as I hate to buy and waste batteries.

The Only Drawback

I love everything about the Sohimi heated vibrator except for the fact that there’s no outer clitoral stimulator. I thought the bendy function would help with that, but the issue there is I need a stronger sensation on my clit than what you feel on the handle end of the vibrator. I also like something more pointed for clit stimulation, like the classic Rabbit ears we all know and love.

So, instead of keeping the vibe inside me the whole time, I eventually have to take it out and apply the tip directly to my clitoris when I’m ready to come. So its function at that point is more like a soft and squishy bullet vibrator — but let me tell you, it’s a GLORIOUS and luxurious feel, and I liked it better than my hard plastic mini-bullet.

The orgasm I had with this was incredible, and I’m convinced you won’t get more bang for your buck anywhere else.

After playing with the way it bends, I found that my favorite thing to do is to press the vibrator’s tip to my clit while thrusting my fingers inside me.

Get More Orgasms

Remember: sex begets sex. So for me, and so many others, masturbating makes us want more sex, not less. That’s why self-love is so helpful for upping my libido.

Plus, I can spend quality time with my vibrator and have an orgasm even when I’m not horny to begin with. Sometimes I like to masturbate just to de-stress or reduce my anxiety, even when I’m not in the mood for wild and horny partner sex.

Despite the fact that my first choice would be a different shaped vibe, I’d definitely recommend this if you want to try something a little different. It would also be incredible to play with as a couple. Being fucked by my partner while using a quality vibrator like this against my clit is one of my favorite couple’s activities.

Overall, I’d enthusiastically recommend the Sohimi brand. They have plenty of options and all kinds of toys I’d love to try, all at an affordable price — from clit-sucking toys to mini-tongue vibrators, to toys for men and couples.

I’m always looking for great online stores I can shop to up my sex game, and Sohimi hits the mark.

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This story is part of Sexual Espresso, a weekly column published on Sexual Tendencies.

Further Reading

He Made Me Squirt
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Who Masturbates More — Men or Women?
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How to Please a Woman When She’s Sitting on Your Face
A direct and erotic guidemedium.com

Why I Love Under-the-Bed Restraints During Sex

Kinky fun for bondage beginners and erotic experts

When my husband and I were dating, he learned early on that I was sexually submissive. My heart sped up and my arousal intensified if he did something as simple as pin my wrists above my head in one of his large hands during sex.

When we first started venturing into the use of bondage toys in our love-making, we started small. Ties and scarves. Then handcuffs. Then, we tried out something that took our kinky exploration of BDSM to a whole new level: an under-the-bed restraint system.

With this kind of restraint, both the wrists and ankles can be easily cuffed at the top and bottom of the mattress. The first time we used them, my hubby had adjusted the straps so that my limbs stretched out wide, reaching toward all four corners of our mattress.

The beauty of this kind of adjustable system is that you can place the straps however you like — wide apart or closer together, depending on how much slack you want to allow your partner.

On this special first occasion of ours, I was flat on my back and completely naked, my arms and legs cuffed at all four corners of the bed. With my head resting on a pillow and my legs forced wide open, I felt the chill of the air on my most intimate area. My hands were spread just as wide, so I wouldn’t be able to take the cuffs off of myself.

My husband knelt between my legs, grinning. He had complete control of my body and my complete trust.

At the mercy of his — and my — pleasure

I love the feeling of being fully restrained. The feeling of being completely open, exposed, and at my lover’s mercy.

As his fingers danced along my belly, my hips, my arms, and then to my breasts, I relished every minute of the attention, my goosebump-dotted skin extra sensitive to the sensation of his touch.

He gently teased and pinched my nipples with his fingers before bending over me to place first my right nipple, then my left, between his lips and stimulate them both with his tongue.

I gasped at the electric shock that rippled to my core, and he kept the pleasure going as he placed a hand between my legs and played with the delicate folds of labia. Because of my position, my lips were already spread open for him and waiting.

He fingered me gently, and I immediately bucked my hips up to meet his hand, thrusting against it as much as my restraints would allow (which wasn’t enough). It was a delicious kind of torture.

When he stopped playing with me, I immediately wanted more.

“Ask for it,” he said, teasing me.

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I rolled my eyes because he knows I’m shy with dirty talk. Even to this day, I’m more comfortable writing my dirtiest thoughts or discussing them outside of sex — and I get some sort of stage-fright when I talk about my own pleasure during sex. There’s this pressure to sound all sexy when I’m afraid I’ll sound the exact opposite.

“Put your mouth on me,” I said.

“Where, here?” He kissed the top of my shin.

“No, down more.”

“Tell me,” he said, his chin perfectly centered between my legs, hovering over the spot I wanted him to dive into.

“Lick my clit,” I said, trying to sound confident in my demand.

Finally, he touched his tongue to my dripping wet and waiting pussy. Thankfully, he rose to the occasion and went above and beyond the simple task I asked him to complete. His tongue was all over me, gliding up and down my slit, thrusting inside me, and then circling in on my swollen clit.

I rose to meet his greedy mouth, again digging my heels into the mattress to pump my hips against the restraints and getting very little lift. In my frustration, I pulled at the wrist cuffs, yearning to push his head down.

“Harder,” I begged. And he obliged, placing his hands beneath my ass cheeks and pulling me up against his mouth as he applied more pressure from his frantic tongue.

Not having my hands available to me was forcing me to be more communicative.

I asked him to finger me while he lapped at my clit, and he immediately began pumping two of his fingers in and out of me. Within minutes, I was shuddering from an intense climax, moaning so loudly with pleasure that I worried our neighbors would hear.

He wiped a hand across his mouth and was instantly on the move. He placed his knees between my legs, thrusting his hard cock into me while the aftershocks of my orgasm were still coursing through my body.

It was strange not being able to touch him, but I felt irresistible and desired, thoroughly used for his pleasure. The feeling of relinquishing sexual control arouses me more than I can put into words.

He fucked me harder and harder the closer he got, grunting out his pleasure as he chased his climax. Just before he came, he pulled out and ejaculated on my belly, which rose up and down quickly with my panting.

It was some of the hottest, most intimate sex I’d ever experienced with my partner.

Great for bondage beginners and experts

An under-the-bed restraint system is super simple to use and not at all daunting for bondage beginners. Another bonus, the set-up is a breeze — the name says it all.

To get started, you simply lift the mattress, lay out the four connected straps until the cuffs reach the four corners, place the mattress back on top of the system, and you’re ready for some kinky fun.

It’s nice that everything is adjustable. You can place the cuffs wider apart at the corners, or closer together at the top and bottom of the mattress. You can also easily adjust the lengths of the straps depending on the person’s height.

Another plus is that the cuffs are soft against the skin and also easy to adjust, either with Velcro or a simple buckle. You can make them tight on the wrists and ankles or leave a little room, depending on personal preference.

There are no complicated knots to worry about, and you don’t have to be concerned about metal cuffs damaging the skin or ropes cutting off circulation. While safety and consent are always a factor no matter what you’re doing, this restraint system is really user friendly, and the safety concerns are not as numerous as something like handcuffs or rope bondage, which require more training and expertise.

The price point is another plus. Check any sexy store or online shop, and you’re able to find a set anywhere from under $20 on the lower end to $75 on the higher end.

But my favorite part is getting kinky and creative and doing all sorts of different things. If you’re more on the vanilla side and just want to dip your toes into bondage, you can opt to just restrain the wrists or ankles only.

You can be tied up on your back, on all fours, or flat on your belly.

With some sets, you can even detach the cuffs and use them with a shorter connector, coming up with all sorts of new bondage positions.

The thing I love most is the immense pleasure I get from being tied up and taken. This level of bondage is extremely intimate, erotic, and arousing for a subby girl like me — and I highly recommend it to my like-minded submissives out there.

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